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7x Top Writer (Sept 2021). I am a Consultant by training. Now, I run start-ups. Simplicity is my mantra. I think, I write, I am.

Writer, not a writer. Can write, cannot write. Want to be, maybe. Coherently incoherent. Believer of complex simplicity.

Author standing at the balcony of a beach resort.
Image contributed by the author. This is me on a family vacation in Bintan.

Let me start with a confession.

I got myself into a flux.

I cannot write yet I do. What attracted me wasn’t the act of writing. I wanted an avenue to extract the mess from my head. Writing helps, or so I thought.

Writing did not clear the mental mess without creating new ones. Great. Now, I have 2 problems. The never-ending mental mess created by writing and a new one which is an addiction to write.

Whoever recommended me to write ought to be shot.

I write, but I cannot.

My tenses are odd. I have an overriding preference…

I trust my struggle.

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Writing is tough. I salute everyone who writes for a living. It requires a monumental effort to extract that little idea in our heads and give birth to them in visible form. This effort goes beyond the use of alphabets, sentences, paragraphs, and expressions. Beyond that, coherence matters.

I struggled a lot in school when it comes to languages. In Singapore, we had to slog through the first 10 years of our education learning 2 languages. The first one is the national working language, and that is English. The second one is our Mother Tongue, which is Chinese for me.

Just being brutally honest.

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I learned a lot from my Aunt during my growing-up years. She is very different from my Mum. So different, in fact, that I doubted their sisterhood many times. My Mum embraced the narrative of the average. My Aunt did not. My Mum believed in being contented with life. My Aunt pushes the envelope of possibility.

I was drawn to my Aunt because I was never happy with what I had. I wanted more. I wanted to prove that I am a cut above the rest, and I wanted people to recognize me for it. …

Big mistake if you do.

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It is easy to mistake one for the other. They appear alike, especially from the perspective of a third party. However, there is a difference between temporary retreating from the noisy surroundings and not wanting anyone else to enter into our world.

I have been accused of anti-social behavior for the longest time. That is a third-party view that is inaccurate. Let me explain why.

I do find the world outside my personal space to be noisy. And I think that is so by default. I like to think, read, and observe. …

Letting loose for a day.

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I am writing this story for myself because I needed it. I wanted to experience the freedom of writing what I want to, without receiving any private notes from editors. And for that matter, rejection emails. I understand that it is necessary to improve my craft daily, though there are times where I needed to do things my way.

We work for our keep. We write to grow a side income, and in the process, getting to know people in the circle and carve a niche for ourselves. …

We believe what we want to believe in. Have we ever tried venturing out to test our beliefs and what we think is true? What happens if the map in our hands is not accurate?

A scout in action, watching afar with binoculars.
Image by Kenneth Schulze from Pixabay

There are 2 types of intellectuals in this world, according to Julia Galef.

On the left, there is the soldier.
On the right, there is the scout.

The soldier takes what he has and executes it. He takes the jungle map with a puff-up chest and heads straight into the woods, knowing he can survive the ordeal.

The scout stares hard at the map and wonders if it is accurate. He sets out to the woods for a different reason.

The scout wants to figure out the truth and if reality deviates from what he has.

And how the world…

Health & Fitness | Holistic Wellness

Let‘s get real. It‘s up to us to take care of ourselves. No one does it better than we do.

A lady practicing Yoga by the sunset.
Image by Syaibatul Hamdi from Pixabay

“When it comes to holistic health we are looking beyond the physical body and are addressing physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and intellectual health. All of these 5 aspects of holistic health are what enable a person to truly live each day in the healthiest, happiest way possible and if one area if compromised, most likely other areas will be as well.”

- The 5 Aspects Of Holistic Health And Why They Are So Important

This is the best explanation I have come across for holistic well-being.

And I agree.

But before that.

We have to recognize that it is up…

Goals can be incredibly addictive and demotivating. We become deflated balloons when we do not achieve them. Instead, set systems. Systems allow us to progress into the future.

Gears and cranks moving to et things done.
Image by Hugo Hercer from Pixabay

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.”

Pablo Picasso

This is one of the best quotes I have come across for goal-setting.

The reason?

Because the focus is not on goals per se.

We know the importance of setting goals for self-actualization. This message has been relentlessly chimed by the people around us, and those living in the digital universe.

However, knowing what we want is very different from how we can get there…

Editorial Op-Ed | Of Reading and Writing

There are times where we drift along, and not knowing where we are heading to. We grab onto a floating log and go where the current brings us. The spark of revelation will come when we drift along, long enough.

A guy staring at the moon.
Image by James Wheeler from Pixabay

Let me share a beautiful passage from a story I just read.

“This year I’ve experienced a lot of losses. I’ve lost my childhood friend. I’ve lost my best friend. I’ve lost my freedom. I’ve also managed somehow to lose $35,000. Most importantly I’ve lost myself along the way. Somehow nothing excited me as much as it did before. I could not find a reason to be motivated to do certain things.”

mila | How 1,000 Strangers Helped Me Find My Purpose Again

The feeling of loss sucks. It sucks in part because it stings really hard, spiritually, emotionally, and…

Something, the best we can do is just to keep moving

Image by SplitShire from Pixabay

We love our past.
We bask in our past, reliving our former glory.
But there is no glory.
Because all of that belonged to our past.

We struggle with today.
We think, we dawdle, we cringe, we fiddle.
But there is no struggle.
Because we either move forward or we remain backward.

We fret when we think of our future.
We do not know what we do not.
We fear, we worry, we work hard, we press on.
But one thing is for sure.

Tomorrow will come.
The Sun will shine.

P.S.: Thanks to Claire Kelly for the invite!


Aldric Chen

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